JulianGiulio Nhorteo Batedo
1 min readJan 26, 2019

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Yes.
… If the other person is mature and can see the benefit for all…
Once after an absurd altercation with a female-friend (we were having-dinner in this local restaurant and she just walked-out!… Leaving me alone in her city and with a bill to pay for un-eaten food!),…. Anyway, the morning after that, we decided to do the ‘talking-stick’ mutual-listening idea, -where one person talks freely, honestly and subjectively about how they saw + felt about the situation… Meanwhile, the other listens with all their heart and mind, or just openly… If they (the listener,) thinks of something they need to say, they ask the person to hold on for a moment, -to maybe scribble it down for when its their turn; and then ask the person to go on (without this, it wouldn’t be full-listening).
Then it is the other person’s turn to do exactly the same…
Done like this, it brought us both to tears with the mind & heart’s amazement as to how different were our perspectives, and now, although having not abandoned our own way of seeing, we now took both as important and valuable and true…
It was very moving…

I find such ‘techniques’ encapture your attitude expressed in this article very well: it is democratic, both human-beings are equally valuable, both perspectives likewise; it is a beautiful exercise in ‘deep-listening’, and -done rightly- one would think it can only bring them closer

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